Falling in love

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with

your partner . You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their

idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely

natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's

why it's called "FALLING" in love. :)



People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."

Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing,

and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and

spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together,

the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch

is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies,

instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with

every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the

initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry

subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start

asking, " Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of

the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone

else. This is when relationships breakdown.


The key to succeeding in a relationship is NOT finding the right person;
it's learning to love the person you found,

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for

fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby,

a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this

dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not

saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And

TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few

years later. 




The key to succeeding in a

Relationship is not finding the right person;

it's learning to love the Person you FOUND. :) 






Taken from "When I Miss you, I re-read our old conversations and smile"
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